Ecosexuality

I just had sex with the Grand Canyon!

By Corinne Farago

April 22nd was Earth Day, and I couldn’t have found myself in a more awe- inspiring part of the world, The American Southwest.

It was my first visit to the Grand Canyon. My partner led me up to the rim with my eyes covered. He placed my hands on a metal barrier that stood over a very deep part of the canyon and told me to open my eyes.

No photos really prepared me for the experience of taking in the expanse that stretched out before me in all directions. It was a visceral feeling of awe and wonder. I was looking down into hundreds of millions of years of geographical evolution.

I felt simultaneously expanded to infinity and profoundly insignificant in relationship to what I was looking out upon; insignificant as a human species, which in the grand scheme of things is only the minutest blip in the history of this planet.

Over the next three days of exploring the vistas of the Canyon, I felt many moments of expansion that created roller coaster like waves of pleasurable vertigo that would start in my belly and travel down to my toes.

I turned to my partner and said, “I think I just had sex with the Grand Canyon.” I not only felt penetrated by the concept of time, it felt like nature itself was penetrating my body.

I was being initiated into an experience that is shared by those who self-define as Ecosexuals, a term that speaks to someone’s experience of pleasurable union and deep intimacy with the natural world. The aim of this group is to re-conceptualize the way we look at the earth, from seeing the planet as a mother to seeing it as a lover.

Ecosexuals see sexuality and creation as an all-encompassing energy that moves in all of us. Sex is creation, and creation is the universal life force that animates every living thing.

The Grand Canyon was only the first of many awe-inspiring Southwestern vistas that expanded my relationship to nature during our travels on the road.

We found what we were seeking when we left our familiar little world a week earlier. It was the feeling of aliveness that comes with the natural world, in all the beauty of its creation, its destruction, and the mind-bending perception of time and existence.

Nature gave me a macro-perspective that lifted me high above my usual micro-centric daily living, human struggles, and in comparison, petty problems that, at times, keep me feeling entangled and confined.

We are, by our very nature, sexual creatures, with the choice to open and embrace the energy of creation, or resist and separate ourselves from that energy on a macro and micro level.

By opening ourselves to the macro-perception of nature’s penetrative force, we can learn to surrender to the micro-penetration of human love.

It’s a journey that brings us face to face with, a sometimes, overwhelming abyss of limitations. We can cling to the rim in our fear of falling, or we can spread our wings and sore like eagles high above all the reasons that keep us feeling small and disconnected to our true lover’s nature. 

Earth Day reminds me that nature holds the key to all of our human problems, because we are not separate from nature. We are nature, living within the same laws of creation. The inspiration is right there, waiting for us to discover the answers, if we take the time to look.

Whether it’s the penetrative force of some place like the Grand Canyon, or the beauty and perfection found in a small pond, we can all become Ecosexuals, and allow nature to teach us how to open our human hearts to a higher love.

Stay well and love deeply,

Corinne

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