Jealousy: Taming the Beast


I consider relationship jealousy to be one of the more painful emotional challenges, regardless of your chosen relationship model. No one teaches us how to protect ourselves from the agonizing grip of jealousy. In full force jealousy is emotionally (and physically) overwhelming. It not only cuts to our deepest fear of not being loved, but on a very primal level, jealousy is a warning sign that even our physical survival may be threatened if we were to lose our partner to another.

Jealousy: Taming the Beast2023-10-06T07:34:15-07:00

Examine Your Core Beliefs and Reach New Levels of Intimacy


By engaging in honest self-reflection and exploring the source of our stories, we can better understand ourselves and improve relationships by approaching conversations with clarity instead of fear or judgement. By owning up to what we’re telling ourselves and actively listening to our inner dialogue, we can unravel distorted thinking and create healthier connections with those around us.

Examine Your Core Beliefs and Reach New Levels of Intimacy2023-09-27T14:46:41-07:00

9 Reasons Why Couples Work With a Relationship Coach


I love my couples. They reach out for sex coaching, wanting to create a fulfilling sexual and intimate life. The number one obstacle to achieving their goals is sometimes an unhealthy relationship dynamic. For most of us, opening ourselves to sexuality with our partners requires trust, connection and a sense of emotional safety. If our relationships are being impacted by unhealthy dynamics that leave us triggered and harboring conscious or unconscious resentment, sexuality will be impacted or, at worst no longer exist.

9 Reasons Why Couples Work With a Relationship Coach2023-09-08T11:33:12-07:00

Sexual Trauma and PTSD


Sexual Trauma and PTSD keep painful memories from our past alive and present in our day to day lives. Hypnotherapy uses the power of your own mind to unlock the hold these memories have on you, by helping your brain process them in a gentle and effective way. If you suffer from trauma, you’re well aware that some memories trigger feelings of present-time fear, keeping you anxious, and on high alert, even though consciously you know you’re no longer in danger. If some of those memories have created Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that means your brain is ‘matching’ those past memories to present day experiences, or what is referred to as ‘pattern matching’ in Hypnotherapy.

Sexual Trauma and PTSD2023-08-25T08:44:05-07:00

New Ways to Heal Old Wounds


When two people get together to form a relationship, there are two sets of wounds merging and intertwining, our partner’s and our own. We know when our old wounds are being dragged into a conflict because our pain and defensiveness will suddenly spike. If our partner is speaking the same words as our inner abuser, the armor will go up, and disagreements will escalate into shouting, tearful battles.

New Ways to Heal Old Wounds2023-08-09T11:57:17-07:00

I’m Done With Sex!


When I hear a woman make such a resounding statement as ‘I’m done with sex’, I imagine a long road of frustration, obligation, unmet desires and unspoken words, leading up to that absolute declaration. Sex is not about obligation, although women have been told it was their obligation for eons of time. Relatively speaking, it wasn’t all that long ago that women were considered the property of a man, and their role in life was having a family and pleasing her husband. (and in many parts of the world still are).

I’m Done With Sex!2023-07-28T20:14:20-07:00

5 Elements of a Welcoming Invitation: The Art of Initiation (Part 2)


In last week’s blog, Initiating Sex (part 1) you read about why it’s important to master the art of initiation. I use the term art, because with seduction and initiation there is no formula to apply, no one-size fits all script to use. In part 1 we learned that the secret is good communications. I now want to give you some insights that might help you hear ‘yes’, more often than ‘no’.

5 Elements of a Welcoming Invitation: The Art of Initiation (Part 2)2023-07-13T11:14:34-07:00

Breaking the Failed Initiation Cycle: The Art of Initiation (Part 1)


Initiating sex with our partner is a mixed bag for couples. It comes with ease for some, where just a look or an innuendo sets things in motion, but for most couples initiation is laden with a dynamic that create feelings of frustration, misunderstanding and resentment.

Breaking the Failed Initiation Cycle: The Art of Initiation (Part 1)2023-06-30T16:15:11-07:00

Thoughts on Sexual Savoring


Savoring is more than mindfulness. Mindfulness brings us to a razor’s edge of awareness that has qualities of neutrality and acceptance. Mindfulness teaches us to be with what ‘is’. Savoring brings an additional layer of experience with it. It brings a depth of noticing that is filled with feelings of gratitude and appreciation, and even a sense of preciousness.

Thoughts on Sexual Savoring2023-06-16T16:48:50-07:00

Sex and the Boomer Legacy


If you’re reading this and you were born between the mid 40s and the early 60s, you are formally an aging boomer. Congratulations! Let me ask you, do you view aging as a curse or a privilege, an approaching end to your book of life, or the beginning of your next chapter? Your answers will depend on what your life looks like mentally, physically, spiritually, and sexually.

Sex and the Boomer Legacy2023-06-07T14:47:35-07:00
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