Why Have Sex?

2022-01-07T19:25:40-08:00

We’re all on a wild ride together. There’s no question about that. Every part of our life, from health, politics, cultural norms, climate, are in a state of crisis. Depression and anxiety are skyrocketing. I don’t know about you, but it sometimes feels like life is spinning out of control. When I sit down to write about sex, or speak to a group, or coach a client, this question, “why have sex?”, keeps bubbling up for me.

Why Have Sex?2022-01-07T19:25:40-08:00

7 Most Commonly Asked Questions about Sex Coaching

2021-10-29T17:25:05-07:00

It’s pretty easy these days to find out what’s going on people’s minds when it comes to sex coaching. Type it into a search engine and voila, you get back 7 questions about sex coaching, most commonly asked on the internet. I decided to answer those 7 questions here, because my bet is that you might have some of these questions yourself.

7 Most Commonly Asked Questions about Sex Coaching2021-10-29T17:25:05-07:00

It’s Not You, It’s Me

2021-12-20T11:19:13-08:00

Most couples who come to me for intimacy and relationship coaching have one thing in common; they want to know how to get their partner to change. They’ve gotten so used to paying attention to their partner’s shortcomings, that they’ve forgotten, or chosen to ignore their own 50% of the relationship equation.

It’s Not You, It’s Me2021-12-20T11:19:13-08:00

Finding the Gifts in Conflict

2021-12-20T20:10:51-08:00

No matter who you are or how happy you are in your relationship you’re going to experience conflict. Experiencing conflict in your relationship is not sign of weakness, nor a lack of wisdom. It’s simply a polarized dialogue between two people holding opposing positions. How we navigate this dialogue is determined by how skillful we are at moving through conflict as a couple.

Finding the Gifts in Conflict2021-12-20T20:10:51-08:00

SLOW DOWN, Couples at Play

2021-12-20T20:05:50-08:00

Play is a reset button for our over-stressed, news-saturated, time-pressured adult minds. Most couples I work with will readily admit that play is not something they experience on a regular basis. Life has gotten too busy. There’s barely enough time to be alone to talk, much less play.

SLOW DOWN, Couples at Play2021-12-20T20:05:50-08:00

Putting the Sexy into Consent

2021-10-20T16:35:03-07:00

One of my couples came to me feeling the fallout of a non-consensual incident that resulted in one of them feeling angry and the other confused. The man made the mistake of not asking his partner’s consent to try out something new in the bedroom. Rather than talking about it with his partner beforehand, he showed up in the bedroom with handcuffs, and proceeded to lock his partners arms behind her back. There was no conversation about using restraints and no mutual exploration on the subject of bondage beforehand. In effect, consent was not given, and because of that it didn’t go well, at all.

Putting the Sexy into Consent2021-10-20T16:35:03-07:00

The Curse of Confirmation Bias

2022-06-23T07:32:18-07:00

Confirmation bias. We all have it. We experience it every day in the news, in our politics, in our workplace, and most directly in our relationships, where partners can suffer the consequences of confirmation bias on a daily basis. When it comes to our relationship it makes sense then that our brains are far more skilled at noticing what’s wrong with our partner, than what’s right.

The Curse of Confirmation Bias2022-06-23T07:32:18-07:00
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