Empowering Intimacy: Unlock the Power of Ritual in Your Relationship
Infusing the Mundane with Meaning
By Corinne Farago
What Are Rituals and Why Are They Important?
I’m currently deep in the snowy woods of Northern Wisconsin. I’m curled up in front of a fire, reading a book on Japanese Folk Religions. It’s a fitting subject for a natural environment that evokes stillness and silence in a busy mind.
The Japanese culture is synonymous with ritual, particularly ritual that is tied to nature’s rhythm and beauty. Shrines, festivals, purification rituals, ceremonies, and Ancestral veneration, all bring meaning to Japanese lives and culture.
Rituals invite us to go deeper, deeper into the meaning behind our actions. They speak to a part of us that honors the power of intention.
How to Incorporate Intimate Rituals Into Your Everyday Life and Relationship
What rituals exist in your life and relationship right now? Is there a ritual that, given more conscious intention, could deepen your connection with love and life?
Our lives are filled with rituals we inherited from our upbringing as well as rituals we’ve created that are unique to our own lives. Even the most mundane daily activities, like sharing a morning coffee or lighting a candle at dinner, can be elevated to a ritual by empowering the purpose of that activity and bringing meaning to our actions.
What rituals do we honor in our relationships that bring meaning and purpose to our actions?
The answer to that question is unique to each couple.
A common ritual is putting aside quality time to be intimate, both physically and emotionally.
Quality time can last a weekend, an evening, an hour or even a moment. If partners acknowledge the intention of being together, they can turn a simple hug into a ritual.
If a couple agrees that the purpose of an extended hug is to drop into a connected space of appreciation and love, then a hugging ritual is born.
If serving a cup of tea to your partner is done with the full intention to offer that cup with all of your love, in service, then you have brought ritual to that ordinary daily gesture.
If opening the car door for your partner is a ritual, you accept that service as a reminder to show your appreciation, and you do it with full attention and a smile.
By visiting a beautiful vista that has meaning to you as a couple you can share the intention of renewing your connection.
When we agree to express 3 things we’re grateful for before we go to sleep at night, we’re bringing a ritual of positivity and fullness into our slumber.
Make Every Moment Count: How Rituals Can Bring Meaning Into Your Relationship
What moments in your relationship deserve to be ritualized and honored?
I encourage couples to explore rituals in the bedroom.
By preparing the room for intimacy by using lighting, music, scent, and fabric, we transform our intimate preparation into ritual.
By showering or bathing, shaving, etc, we create the ritual of offering our bodies to our beloved and receiving their body in return.
When you enter that prepared intimate space, light a candle together and speak your intention for that time together.
“My intention is to be here with you completely, and let go of all the mental chatter in my head.”
“My intention is to feel my love and appreciation for having some time alone with you.”
“My intention is to let go and receive pleasure.”
When we can identify and speak our intention, it empowers us to make it so.
When we hear our partner’s intention, we can support them in making it so as well.
Transform Everyday Activities Into Sacred Rituals to Deepen Your Connection With Your Partner
Rituals have been an integral part of human life throughout history. These days many people have moved away from traditional rituals or forgotten the importance of creating new ones.
In order to reengage rituals into our lives, we can start by having a conversation with our partner and making a conscious effort to incorporate them into our daily routines.
We have the power to bring meaning to every aspect of our life and relationship. Couples who share this understanding, are always finding new ways to renew and refresh their life together.
If you’re ready to take the next step in creating a deeper and more meaningful connection with your partner, then book a free Discovery Call today and learn how to unlock the power of intimate rituals together.
Let me show you how to make every moment count with rituals that will bring new meaning to your relationship.
Discover the power of rituals that empower your intimacy. Book your free discovery call now!
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I love my couples. They reach out for sex coaching, wanting to create a fulfilling sexual and intimate life. The number one obstacle to achieving their goals is sometimes an unhealthy relationship dynamic. For most of us, opening ourselves to sexuality with our partners requires trust, connection and a sense of emotional safety. If our relationships are being impacted by unhealthy dynamics that leave us triggered and harboring conscious or unconscious resentment, sexuality will be impacted or, at worst no longer exist.
Sexual Trauma and PTSD
Sexual Trauma and PTSD keep painful memories from our past alive and present in our day to day lives. Hypnotherapy uses the power of your own mind to unlock the hold these memories have on you, by helping your brain process them in a gentle and effective way. If you suffer from trauma, you’re well aware that some memories trigger feelings of present-time fear, keeping you anxious, and on high alert, even though consciously you know you’re no longer in danger. If some of those memories have created Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that means your brain is ‘matching’ those past memories to present day experiences, or what is referred to as ‘pattern matching’ in Hypnotherapy.
New Ways to Heal Old Wounds
When two people get together to form a relationship, there are two sets of wounds merging and intertwining, our partner’s and our own. We know when our old wounds are being dragged into a conflict because our pain and defensiveness will suddenly spike. If our partner is speaking the same words as our inner abuser, the armor will go up, and disagreements will escalate into shouting, tearful battles.
I’m Done With Sex!
When I hear a woman make such a resounding statement as ‘I’m done with sex’, I imagine a long road of frustration, obligation, unmet desires and unspoken words, leading up to that absolute declaration. Sex is not about obligation, although women have been told it was their obligation for eons of time. Relatively speaking, it wasn’t all that long ago that women were considered the property of a man, and their role in life was having a family and pleasing her husband. (and in many parts of the world still are).