Using kink as a way to heighten passion and deepen trust and intimacy is one of my favorite things to teach couples who come to see me for sex coaching. Often when I use the word kink, people conjure up images of whips, chains and pain. But what’s kinky depends on you. For some people kinky might be a blindfold or being restrained to a chair with satin ties.

Lighting up a doobie before you make out has been around for decades, but experimenting with hybrids for increased desire, optimal intimacy and CBDs for blood flow and pleasure is a whole new world ready to be explored.

Let’s unpack one of the most common complaints I hear from men about their partners when they come to see me for sex and intimacy coaching. “We don’t have sex anymore. I don’t understand why”